Am I too clingy? You know, sometimes, when we are far away from our partner, we feel unloved when they didn't make time to say hi and ask how our day is going. You missed him, you want to listen to his story, you want to be part of his world because you think both of you should not be separated.
But what happened when you are in long distance relationship is that it is very hard for you to make time because both of you are busy with your own schedule, sometimes you forget to make time because you thought that you can make time again later and forget the fact that they also need your attention.
I learned this from my 3 year experience of long distance relationship. Long distance relationship is bad, you will always fight because of communication issue, and it is hard to solve because you can not know the situation of each other, and it is very fragile and very possible to make an unfinished problem, but from that situation, you also can see how big your love for each other. Because to meet you, is a though and is a struggle. You can know how deep is your love when you see struggle both of you made to make your relationship works. You can also learn to communicate your will together verbally, and it's important to have a secure relationship. I learn a lot to communicate my feeling well to my partner.
The good news is, now we are not in a long distance relationship anymore. I am very happy that we are here together. But yet, sometimes, I still feel that Jakarta and Tangerang is so far because we can only meet at weekend. I know it sound silly haha. But this is not a joke. I missed him and if I didn't get any news from him, I started feeling insecure. But I have already promise myself to be a better version of myself. Now I learn to trust him, I learn to give him more time, learn to understand that he is busy not because he doing bad, but because he is busy with his job, that's all. And I learn not to make a small things became a big problem.
And it works. I learn not to be passive agresive, I learn to tell him what I need, what we can do together to make this works, and yea, he listen to me, I feel better because he listen to me and we are not have many arguments right now. I hope we will have a good life like this until forever, until life separate us.
